ozarque (ozarque) wrote,
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Linguistics; verbal self-defense; kids; part two (final)...

First, I thank you for all your comments and responses. They're interesting, and they're helpful. And then I have just a couple of very brief things to say...


About the thesis stated by briar_witch's husband:
"What my experience has taught me, is that some persons will respond ONLY to a direct and aggressive counter-attack, intended to make continued aggression so unpleasant and counter-productive that they will leave you strictly alone in the future. Anything short of that is seen as weakness and an invitation to continue the bullying/improper aggression."

I can say only that I've worked in conflict resolution for more than thirty years, and have had the good fortune never to encounter an individual of that kind. If I did encounter one, my judgment would be that the situation represents illness -- pathology -- and that what's needed in such a case is the attention of a skilled therapist. It would be a situation that I consider to be far beyond the boundaries of my expertise.


And then there is the idea, stated by a number of you, that what's required to control bullying in children is adult intervention. I agree with you wholeheartedly that adults who find themselves witnessing bullying should not just stand there; they should intervene. But I don't believe that adult intervention is a solution to the problem. The usual consequences of adult intervention are (a) that the kids doing the bullying immediately learn to be far more careful to do it where adults can't see it happening, and (b) that the kids doing the bullying will take out their anger about the adult intervention on their targets, making the bullying more intense and more vicious.

What does help is peer intervention. We need children who are skilled at conflict resolution and have been trained in peer mediation.
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