January 10th, 2008

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Recommended link; eldering and regret...

Recommended: "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda," by David Dudley, from the January&February 2008 issue of AARP:The Magazine, and online at http://www.aarpmagazine.org/people/woulda_coulda_shoulda.html . The subtitle for the article reads: "The new midlife crisis: coming to terms with the road not taken." [That word "midlife" surprised me a bit, which shows you how old I am; for my generation, "midlife" started at about age 35.]

Here are two samples from page 48 of the print edition...

"For every choice we make -- good and bad -- a numberless multitude of options are left untried, each one an opportunity to second-guess, brood, and ask yourself the perilous question: What if? ... Faced with a choice, we automatically spin out alternative worlds in which we marry the other woman, don't order the clams, buy the bigger car, or stay in school. This endless procession of possibilities is essential for helping us make sense of the world... "

And [quoting one Hamilton Beazley, Ph.D.]: "This generation has greater idealized expectations -- the ones that can't be met -- than previous generations. The baby boomers really believe that negative events, even things like getting older, shouldn't happen."

I wonder about that second quote; is Beazley right? I also wonder whether -- if we could hear Beazley saying the final sentence instead of reading the words after they've been copyedited -- it would sound like this:

"The baby boomers really believe that negative events, even things like getting older, shouldn't happen."
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Personal note....

If you [youall] want to discuss what happened in the New Hampshire primary -- and/or its aftermath yesterday, as the tv anchors and pundits went through their orgy of phony grovelling -- I'm willing. It seems to me that the political blogs have that discussion well in hand several times over, but if there are things you'd like to say here, they're welcome.