ozarque ([info]ozarque) wrote,
@ 2007-07-28 08:29:00
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What happened?
[info]idiotgrrl, in the context of my note this morning about going to the ER and the hospital, posted a very reasonable question: "What happened?" I understand the question, and I am grateful for the interest and concern it demonstrates. But I'm not going to answer it. First of all, because the details would bore you, and I'm not here to bore you if I can possibly avoid it.

And second, because there's a metaprinciple in the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense that goes like this:

"Anything you feed will grow."

It holds for houseplants and livestock and crops and pets and children and relationships and communities and verbal altercations; it also holds for bodyglitches. The more you feed them, the more they grow.

In the case of bodyglitches, the food comes in the form of attention, and -- with a few very specialized exceptions that I won't go into at the moment -- the more attention you pay them, the more they grow. I'm not going to feed this particular bodyglitch by writing about it, or by favoring it with any other sort of attention. The day in the ER and the day in the hospital already constitute more attention than it deserves; time to cut off its nourishment.

And I am, as they say, unanimous about that.


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[info]idiotgrrl
2007-07-28 01:42 pm UTC (link)
Ah. Understood. Thanks.

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[info]haikujaguar
2007-07-28 02:54 pm UTC (link)
This is splendid, and is the reason that I almost never discuss in detail the things that bother me unless my circumstance is so dire I need help. Thank you for posting it.

I'm glad you are feeling better. :)

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[info]redbird
2007-07-28 03:40 pm UTC (link)
That makes sense.

My approach is to discuss things that other people need to know (e.g., if I'm diagnosed with something annoying and contagious, like the flu, I'll tell anyone I was recently in close contact with) or that I need them to know. (If I needed to cancel a hiking outing because of sudden knee problems, I'd tell the other people why, and that if they wanted to get together and do something where we could sit and talk, I'm still interested.)

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I'm glad that you're feeling better
[info]dakiwiboid
2007-07-28 04:00 pm UTC (link)
Sometimes you do just have to get up and take the pills and go on.

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[info]dcseain
2007-07-28 04:34 pm UTC (link)
Well said, and i'm glad you're doing better.

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[info]catgryph
2007-07-29 01:46 pm UTC (link)
That makes a lot of sense to me. I'm fairly sure that I've watched this principle in action before, and it seems a good one to work with generally.

(Also, just added your LJ to my friends list).

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[info]ozarque
2007-07-29 03:55 pm UTC (link)
Welcome, and thank you for adding me to your list. I just need to let you know that I can't friend you in return; I'd be happy to, but I'm over the upper limit that LJ allows.

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How did I miss this post?
[info]kelsied
2007-08-04 10:21 pm UTC (link)
That's an interesting observation, though I suspect it's truer for some than others. Probably has a fair bit to do with the way one's personality is constructed and all.

More to the point, I'm appreciative of the term "bodyglitch." It's apt to so many things I've experienced....

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